I have four granddaughters and they love spending time with their Gigi and Papa. I like having rules and structure for children so with the girl’s input we established Papa’s rules. Children need and want boundaries in their lives. It makes them feel safe and loved. Notice, these rules are for adults as well as children.
1. Do not hurt others.
In the girl’s case, it was more about hitting or punching other kids. For adults, the emphasis is on words you use.
“. . . to avoid fighting, and to be kind, always showing gentleness to all people.” Titus 3:2
2. Do not lie. Always tell the truth.
Kids lie, but so do adults. Be a person of your word.
“The Lord detests lying lips, but He delights in people who are trustworthy.” Proverbs 12:22
When a parent or grandparent tells you to do something, you need to obey. God has placed them in authority for your protection. However, if you violate your authority, God will remove you from their lives. As adults, we need to submit to authority. Whether it is a teacher at school, boss at work, or government official, we have a responsibility to obey.
“Discipline your son, and he will give you peace; he will bring delight to your soul.” Psalm 29:17
4. Use good manners.
Children need good manners. Be polite. Say “Yes Sir,” and “No Ma’am.” Adults need to remember their manners too. Showing respect is rare today.
“Show proper respect to everyone.” 1 Peter 2:17
5. Don’t spit in the tiger’s eye.
Jillian and Jessa helped with this one. By this time, they were distracted, looked around the room and spotted an LSU stuffed tiger. I know a good rule, “Don’t spit in the tiger’s eye.” Here was my “Papa” answer: You are right! Spitting in a tiger’s eye would not be a good idea, so our last rule is: Don’t do stupid stuff!
John Wayne said it this way, “Life is tough; but it is tougher when you do stupid stuff.”
“If any of us lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.” James 1:5
Children make mistakes, disobey, and even rebel at times, but the discipline from a loving adult can make a difference for a lifetime. One day they will be discipline their child the same way!